How
Do I Get Over My Relationship?
by Susan Russo
 "Change your thoughts
and you will change your world." -Norman
Vincent Peale
The single one thing that you
can do to change your situation is learn how to
get in control of your thinking. We think some
60,000 thoughts a day and most of them go unnoticed,
they are part of our unconscious thinking. These
are thoughts that go over and over in our minds
and they are the exact thoughts that cause us
to feel the way we do.
Some people think that their
feelings create their thoughts, when in fact,
it is the opposite. Our thoughts create how we
feel. If you are constantly thinking limiting,
negative thoughts such as: I miss him/her, I feel
so devastated, I'm so depressed, why did this
happen, I will never get over him, I will never
meet someone that I love like him/her, why, what
if, if only and on and on. How do you think these
kinds of thoughts are going to make you feel?
On the other hand, if you stop
yourself and start to say things like: I may miss
him, but I know I will get over this soon, or,
I feel the devastation but nothing lasts forever.
Or, I may be depressed now but with time I am
healing my heartache, and on and on.
Switch the negative, woe-is-me
thinking and flip it to a positive, livable version.
As the saying goes, "It's not what happens
to us that matters as much as how we perceive
what happens to us."
Of course you will go through
the normal healing process which will take some
time, but if you learn to help yourself by understanding
that a lot of the pain is directly connected to
your thoughts you will be able to implement the
tools to help yourself heal much faster.
It's important to understand
this concept because only then you can do something
about it. The key to tapping into this awareness
is to simply ask yourself, how am I feeling?
Use your feelings as a barometer
to determine if you are on the right or wrong "thinking
path." If you are feeling bad, you can be
assured it is in direct correlation to what you're
thinking.
Test it. Stop yourself and
say, what am I telling myself? Am I dwelling on
the past, the heartache and worrying? Am I going
over and over, what if and why? Well, there it
is. These are the exact kinds of thoughts that
will keep you stuck from moving on.
When you notice that you are
feeling bad and you become aware of the inner
dialogue is your opportunity to flip the channel
by stopping the debilitating thinking and begin
to take yourself on the road to recovering from
your pain.
I use this same exact method
when I am coaching people in other aspects of
their lives. If it's money issues, work related
topics or simply living with a negative attitude.
Rest assured it's all about
what you are constantly saying to yourself. So
start to tune into what is going on in your head
and when you don't like what you hear, change
the channel. In time you will get better at it
and it will help you to live a better life no
matter what your circumstances.
Warm wishes…Susan
| Susan
Russo is President of Pinnacle
Thought, Inc., a publisher for books
and resources which provide inspiration, self-empowerment
and the tools and strategies to help you toward
personal success and fulfillment. She has written
one of the top breakup books on the market. Her
direct approach is a wake up call for anyone who
is stuck in the letting go process. How would
you like to move beyond the pain and start to
feel like a human again? Find out how by visiting There
Is Life After What's-His-Name. |
PLEASE BOOKMARK
THIS PAGE BEFORE YOU LEAVE
Top
of page | Back
to Articles | Home
|
