Are
You Living in the Past?
by Susan Russo
 "Acceptance
of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequence of any misfortune." -William James
Do you ever
lie in bed at night and find yourself in the midst of a mental dialogue with someone who has recently caused you some kind
of turmoil or who has upset your life?
You go over the situation in your mind- what happened, how it was handled, how it should've been handled,
what you said, what you didn't say, what you want to say now, etc.
It's almost as if the person is with you in the room and
you are smack dab in the middle of a lively confrontation with them.
Or, has something happened that you don't quite understand and your mind goes over every possible scenario
as to why, how, when and if you could do it again, what would be different?
These mental exercises are important only so
you can learn a lesson. Analyzing the situation, your response, etc., is necessary so you don't live through it again by
making the same mistakes.
It's when you can't let go of the compulsive need to go over and over something which is already over
and done with that it becomes toxic to you.
Life isn't always fair. Many people have their own agendas that can take you
by surprise and cause undue stress in your life.
Understanding that things don't always work out the way you'd like or that people don't have the same
integrity as you will help you in processing these situations.
When you struggle with the reality that people will act in
hurtful, deceptive ways that can adversely affect your life, you are resisting what is and holding onto something you can
never do anything about.
The real struggle ensues when you can't mentally let go of these injustices and you hold onto them for
dear life.
You may think that somehow, some way if you replay it over enough times in your mind it will ultimately
make things right. Guess what? That will never happen.
The one thing you can do that will make things right is; you accept what is and let it go.
Every time
you rehearse the dialogue, the encounter or the injustice, you hold onto negative energy which is causing you to attract
more negative energy.
Isn't that great, here you are the good one, the fair one, who was grossly offended and because you can't
accept what was, you are reliving the nightmare over and over again and therefore not enjoying today.
It's time to realize
that today is all you really have. If you miss the opportunity to live today by staying mired in the past your life will
reflect the unhappiness and sadness that you will carry with you.
So many people live in the past by reliving old hurts and unfairness or they live in the future by devising
a mental plan on how the next encounter will turn out. They seek revenge, dwell on jealousy and hope to get even.
What about
right now? Are you living in the past or scheming for a future encounter? If so, you are missing the best part of your life
and the only part of your life that really matters, right now the present.
Before today, you may not have been aware of the madness that possesses your thinking; the ego that keeps
you stuck somewhere that is far away. As of today, learn to let go of the past and begin to enjoy living again.
Warm wishes…Susan
| Susan
Russo is President of Pinnacle
Thought, Inc., a publisher for books
and resources which provide inspiration, self-empowerment
and the tools and strategies to help you toward
personal success and fulfillment. She has written
one of the top breakup books on the market. Her
direct approach is a wake up call for anyone who
is stuck in the letting go process. How would
you like to move beyond the pain and start to
feel like a human again? Find out how by visiting There
Is Life After What's-His-Name. |
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