| Affairs
that are carried out over the internet are increasingly
common, and marriage counselors report a sharp
increase in the amount of couples that come to
therapy each year as a result of an affair that
has been carried out online. The greatest risk
to a couple still involves co-workers, friends
or neighbors, but the internet enables people
to develop close relationships with others despite
the distance or lack of social connection.
When
a partner is developing a cyber-affair, there
are a number of techniques and strategies you
can employ. The first is that you check out How
to Catch a Cheating Spouse:
To Catch
A Cheater
There
are a few additional key pointers that indicate
what is happening. They include:
Developing
secrecy and a need for privacy.
If someone
is conducting an affair online, their privacy,
particularly how this applies to their computer
usage, is suddenly very important. The computer
may be moved to a less visible area of the house,
the spouse may change their password to prevent
you from accessing the computer when they are
not around, and your partner may react angrily
when you approach them or disturb them while they
are online. In fact, disturbing them while they
are online can tell you a lot about what is happening.
Are they open about what they are doing? Do they
get angry or defensive if you disturb them? Do
they react with surprise and close their browser
when you come near the screen? The volatility
of their reaction will be able to indicate quite
clearly if thier computer usage is something you
need to be concerned about.
Change
in home life and sleep patterns.
Internet
chat room usage increased sharply after dark,
so your partner may be motivated to stay up late
and be part of the action. Getting to bed very
late or getting out of bed very early in the morning
may point towards your partner visiting dating
sites and chat rooms to exchange emails with a
new love interest. This change in sleep patterns
can have a significant affect on your home life
and your relationship with them. There may be
little time for intimacy or communication in your
marriage if your partner is spending late nights
and early mornings at their computer.
Decline
in household chores.
As a consequence
of spending so much time online, the state of
cleanliness in the house may start to suffer.
The lawns might not be mown as often, dirty washing
may pile up, dirty dishes may stay unwashed, and
maintenance around the home may be neglected in
favor of a few more preciouse minutes online.
This decline in the household may signal a change
in priorities. The investment in the online relationship
may come at a cost to your partner's contribution
to the chores and to your relationship.
These
are just a few of the major indicators of an online
affair. To get the full story and find out for
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