Does
He Ever Think of Me?
by Susan Russo
 "Acceptance
of what has happened is the first step to overcoming
the consequences of any misfortune." -William
James
Your relationship is over.
You can't go back and you're not going back but
you're still wondering, "Does he ever think
of me?" So many people want validation to
know that the time that they spent with this person
wasn't a waste of time. They want to know that
they mattered enough that their ex feels bad too.
After all why should they be the only one who
is hurting?
Well, unless they are brain
dead they have to think of you at some time or
another. But the reality is it really doesn't
matter because you will never really know what
they are thinking. It's your ego crying out for
validation, wanting them to hurt just like you
and hoping you weren't that easy to get over.
To make matters worse, if they
are already with someone new, you can barely accept
that they can possibly be going on with their
life while you are suffering so much. It's not
fair, you're in disbelief and you can't get it
out of your head.
Well, here's the deal. When
you are dealt the hand of heartbreak you have
to go through the process of grieving and letting
go. It's normal to feel bad, and you will survive.
Cry, journal, talk it out and then let it go.
If you continue to dwell on
things that you have no control over and if you
dwell on the kind of thoughts that make you feel
bad you are going to suffer more and hold onto
what is causing you pain longer.
So stop the madness
in your mind. There is absolutely no way you can
possibly know what anyone is really thinking.
So why keep torturing yourself by wanting something
that you have no way of knowing what the truth
is. Even if you had the chance to ask him, he
could lie to you and say yes. Or he could say
no and it would make you feel worse.
It is truly an exercise in
futility. You are spending so much negative energy
on thoughts that don't help you. Instead, start
to accept that the relationship is over regardless
if he's thinking of you or not. Start to pick
up the pieces of your life, look forward not backwards
and begin the process of healing and moving on.
Each time you start to walk
down Is-He-Thinking-of-Me Lane, change directions
and put yourself on a path to healing. Know that
with every ending is a new beginning. Don't stay
so long living in the past that you miss out on
what is right in front of you.
Sometimes things just don't
work out the way we want them to. But just because
your relationship is over, doesn't mean your life
is over. This too shall pass sooner rather than
later if you begin to let go of the pain and embrace
your future.
Warm wishes…Susan
| Susan
Russo is President of Pinnacle
Thought, Inc., a publisher for books
and resources which provide inspiration, self-empowerment
and the tools and strategies to help you toward
personal success and fulfillment. She has written
one of the top breakup books on the market. Her
direct approach is a wake up call for anyone who
is stuck in the letting go process. How would
you like to move beyond the pain and start to
feel like a human again? Find out how by visiting There
Is Life After What's-His-Name. |
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