What Are You Upset About?
by Susan Russo

"The mind is it's own place and can make Heaven out Hell or Hell out of Heaven." -John Milton

Everyone has issues they are dealing with which range all over the "life experience" board. From relationships, to money, work, health, love, debt, decisions, crossroads, revenge, jealousy, bosses, bitterness, and on and on.

These issues seem to consume us and fill us with worry, fear, hurt, pain, anxiety and more. But, they don't have to.

I know it's easy to say but when you are going through it, it's just not that easy. The truth is, it's easier than you think because being upset is a choice.

If you are in debt, what good does it do to worry about it? For that matter what good does worrying do for anything? Does it help you to get out of debt? Does worrying make the fear of more debt go away?

What about your jerk of a boss, does it help you to have anxiety every time you are around this person? Does it make you feel better to fear what might happen?

Get a grasp on the fact that when you are carrying around all of your little tools that you believe help you get through your issues, the negativity attached to them only causes more issues. These kinds of tools of worry, fear, anxiety etc. are never going to help you fix the problems, they will only help make them worse.

Whatever you focus on, no matter what it is, you will attract more of it into your life. So, focusing on how hurt you feel isn't going to make you feel better, is it? Focusing on your hurt and pain caused by a relationship gone bad does nothing to help you move away from your pain, it only keeps you mired in it.

Choose any of the negative emotions that go along with "issues" in ones life, focus on them and see how that works out for you. See if they make you feel better or worse.

Of course, initially having these emotions are normal when you are reacting to certain situations. But, it's when you dwell on them and they are the only emotions you let inside is when it becomes an issue in and of itself.

So how do you rid yourself of the ever so present garbage that goes along with your "issues?"

You dwell on something else. You change your mind. You stop yourself mid-thought and flip the script in your mind.

You tell yourself what you will choose to think about going forward. You refuse to allow negative thinking consume you. And, you focus on the positive, not the negative.

First, accept that things may not be the way you may like it but that doesn't mean that it has to ruin your life. You do have choices.

Instead of focusing on what is wrong, focus on what is right in your life. Each time you start down the what-am I-going-to-do path, release the situation, bless it and let go and let God or your higher spiritual side take it.

Believe in a better outcome. Trust that everything is working out for your good. Know that you will survive anything and be a stronger, wiser person because of it. Build a better outcome using your thoughts as your foundation. Live expecting the best, not the worst. Have faith, not fear and envision the results you want.

Your mind can make heaven out of hell or hell out of heaven. It's all about how you choose to look at any given circumstance that enters your life. Let positive thinking take over. Create an attitude of everything is working out instead of nothing good ever happens.

You are what you think so, choose thoughts that will empower you not drag you down. If something isn't working in your life, either eliminate it and move or, change your attitude about it. Know in your heart that things always work out in the end, no matter what.

It's not what happens to us in life that matters as much as how we view it, how we choose to react to it. If you have a choice, which you do, then choose to live with an attitude of gratitude and forget the rest.

Warm wishes…Susan

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