New York State Child
Support
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My spouse and I are separating. Do NYS child support laws permit
temporary child support or spousal support (maintenance)? |
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Yes, both child support and maintenance is possible. You will need to petition the court,
and provide a financial statement. |
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I know child support is based on the incomes of the parents. What are the percentages of
parental income per child? |
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NYS child support guidelines require the following percentages be paid from gross income:
 17% for one child,
25% for two children,
29% for three children,
31% for four children and
35% or more for five or more children. |
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I can't afford a lawyer, but I know I need one. What can I do? |
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There are any number of organizations that provide free legal advice. Contact the New York
Bar Association using the link above and they will refer you. Also be aware that if one spouse has complete control of the
marital money and does not allow the other spouse access to hire an attorney, the court can order the attorney fees be paid
out of the funds of the controlling parent. |
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| Q. |
I hear that because the NYS child support are so archaic the state recognizes
a Dominican Republic divorce. Is that true? Does New York child support get settled there? |
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Yes, that is true. Your state's divorce laws are archaic and New York does recognize these divorces.
Both parties need to travel there to get it done, but do your states laws if you live outside of NY. In many cases you do
not need to return back to court. As an aside, divorce in Guam is universally recognized, and after the parties appear there,
the divorce normally goes through in a matter of weeks. Child support must be settled in a state court, rather than a territory. |
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| Q. |
I can no longer afford my child support payment I was ordered to pay. Can I get them lowered? |
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Modifications to child support orders can be made if one petitions the court and demonstrates
a significant change of circumstances. Even if you merged your divorce agreement into the divorce judgment, you can still
have it modified. This of course also applies to one petitioning the court to raise the amount. |
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Can the court reduce or eliminate my arrears of NYS child support? |
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No. Any accrual that occurred prior to a petition to get child support lowered cannot be
reduced or eliminated. |
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If you sign over your parental rights to a child do you still have to pay NYS child support? |
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It really will depend on your jurisdiction or state. Signing over parental rights does not
necessarily relieve one of the child support obligation unless the other parents agrees. Where adoption is involved, being
absolved of child support is more frequent. |
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I want joint custody so I don't have to pay any child support. How can I get this done? |
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With joint physical custody there is still a payment of child support from the higher income
parent to the lower income parent, usually determined by a sliding scale based on time with each parent |
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Will a new spouse have to pay child support? |
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No, a new spouse is not legally obligated to support the children of the new spouse's previous marriages
or relationships. However, if the new spouse has joint assets (such a Community Property state) or a joint checking account
those assets can be attached. |
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Is there a place on-line that I can go to so that I might see the child support payments in my case with
my ex-spouse? |
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Yes, the DCSE (Department of Child Support Enforcement) has a NYS
child support log-in page where you
can track payment status. |
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At what age does NYS child support end? |
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The paying of child support ends with the child's 21st birthday, unless that child becomes emancipated. |
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NYS Child Custody
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| Q. |
My husband wants a child custody schedule that heavily favors him. He claims equal parenting
rights. I've always taken care of the kids and have the parenting skills in the family. Do NYS child
custody laws and family
courts award parenting time to the mother usually? And how can I avoid a custody battle? Do I need to give in to shared parenting? |
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You have many questions there. New York custody laws instruct the family court to not give preference to
one gender over another, although mothers win custody cases at least three-quarters of the time. Parenting skills are important,
however custody cases aren't decided by whose skills are better, but rather on what is in the best interests of the child
as seen by the family court. Kids and divorce mix best when their interests are put ahead of the parents. Custody
battles happen when one or both parents dig their heels in, and make accusations against the other's parenting skills
and/or parenting styles. If you go headlong into a custody battle, it'll get ugly. Avoid it at all costs. In any case, parents
get the opportunity to agree on a Parenting Plan, Child
Custody Schedule and Child Visitation Schedule. If you and your spouse fail to reach agreement, the family court imposes its own plan(s), so do your best agreeing on
shared custody. |
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| Q. |
Please explain how New York divorce laws define child custody. |
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New York statutes (or laws, if you like) define child custody in two ways. The first is
the right and responsibility to make decisions for a child (legal custody). The other is the decision about where the child
will live (residential or physical custody). |
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What factors play into the family court's decision when deciding child custody? |
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Guided by the best interests of the child, courts will consider:
which parent has been the primary
care-giver
the parenting skill of each parent,
strengths and weaknesses and their ability to care for the children
physical and mental health of each
parent
the child's wants, needs and desires
the child's relationships with siblings
and other members of the family
evidence of any domestic violence
the degree to which each parent is
willing to work with the other parent for the children's welfare |
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I've been told that the Mother gets custody most of the time. Is that true? |
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The courts by virtue of divorce laws in new York, and instructed to not favor one gender
over another. The reality however, is that most courts believe children are better suited with their Mother as primary custodian.
More than 3/4 of all custody awards go to mothers today. |
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Phrases such as joint custody and sole custody are casually used it seems. What are the
differences in custody awards? |
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 Joint custody
signifies that the parents make major decisions about the children together, such as education, health, and religion.
The everyday decisions are made by the custodial parent.
Sole custody means that just one parent
makes decisions without regard to the wishes of the other parent. Some types of decisions included in the right of legal
custody are: where your child goes to school, whether your child gets surgery and what kind of religious training your child
receives. |
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If one gets awarded sole custody, will they have to allow visitation by the other parent? |
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Courts will generally encourage involvement by both parents, unless evidence is presented that puts the
child in an unsafe environment. |
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Are grandparents considered eligible for child custody? |
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You may be asking about visitation for grandparent, so we'll address both. Grandparents
are eligible for custody when there is evidence that the parent(s) have demonstrated that they are not fit to care for the
child. Grandparents must petition the court and be prepared to show evidence why a custody award to them is in the best interests
of the children. For visitation by grandparents, the court must be petitioned to allow regular visitation for them. Often
this becomes part of their adult child's divorce request. Aunts, uncles, and other relatives are also eligible for child
custody under certain circumstances. |
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My husband claims that I won't get much if any child support to help me with my custodial
responsibilities. Is there something on-line that I can look at to approximate how much he will have to pay, if I have his
income amounts? |
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Yes, a web site called All Law makes available a child
support calculator for your use |
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If a court denies my request for custody, do they have to explain why? |
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Yes, when a court makes a decision on custody, it will provide a finding, which
will detail the reasons behind the decision, and provide that to both parties. If one of you fails to show up for the hearing,
the court will likely issue a default finding to the other parent, and will not provide the obvious finding. |
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Visitation
Co Parenting
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Can my soon-to-be ex and I put together our own visitation
plan rather than accept the court's plan? |
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Yes, you can. During the divorce process, the parties have an opportunity to negotiate and
agree to a visitation plan as part of a parenting
plan; one that works well for everyone. Of course, if there
is no agreement, the court can order mediation, or impose a schedule of its own. |
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Assuming no agreement can be reached between my wife and I, what's the typical visitation
schedule I can expect from the court? |
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A standard visitation agreement may include: alternate weekend visitation (3-day
weekends included), mid-week visitation, sharing of the children during periods of school recess -winter, spring and summer,
New Year's Eve, Easter, Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, Thanksgiving, and Christmas with one parent or the other in alternate
years, Father's Day with Father, Mother's Day with Mother, alternate years on the children's birthdays, and open communication
by phone and computer. |
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Any suggestions on what we might include in a visitation agreement? |
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Make sure your spouse understands how important it is to agree on terms for shared parenting.
You really don't want the family court deciding these things. Shoot for joint custody and don't get hung up on legal custody
as long as you both can make major decisions for the child. Your best chance of success in deciding shared parenting and
shared custody would be to use Custody Xchange.
If cooperation isn't possible, negotiate. We would recommend you consider including language that defines which parent will
pick up and drop off children, what each will do if one parent becomes habitually late, a provision for the right to be called
first if the parent caring for the children needs to make other arrangements such as finding a sitter, and how much much
exposure they'll want for their children should a new partner enter either parents life. Issues such as having those new
partners stay overnight should be decided. Consider any other matters that would reduce the friction in the future. |
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Spousal Support
New York Alimony
Maintenance |
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Do New York State divorce laws allow for spousal support or alimony? |
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New York laws allow the court to order alimony to a dependent spouse, in such amount as
justice requires, if the dependent spouse lacks sufficient property and income to provide for his or her reasonable needs,
and if the other party has sufficient property or income to provide for the reasonable needs of the other. In determining
the amount and duration of maintenance the court shall consider:
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Grounds For Divorce
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Do New York State divorce laws allow a no-fault ground
for divorce, such as
irreconcilable differences? If not, what is the legal separation I keep hearing about? |
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Finally, New York does permit no-fault divorces. Up until October 2010, NY was the only
remaining state that did not permit no-fault divorces. Parties could legally separate for a year once a separation agreement
had been submitted and accepted by the court, and then be divorced. (Some refer to this method as a mutual "consent
divorce") At the end of the year apart either could request it be converted to a dissolution. That has been changed
(see below) |
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What are the fault grounds for divorce in New York State? |
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The New York Legislature changed the landscape for divorce in effective in October 2010.
The only basis for divorce now is irretrievable breakdown of the marriage for at least six months. Fault
grounds are now a thing of the past. |
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Read New York divorce statutes as they are written HERE
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Mediation
Marriage Counseling |
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Do divorce laws in New York State mandate that mediation or counseling be a
part of a typical divorce? |
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Mediation and/or counseling is, of course, always available privately. The family
courts will order the parties to either if it feels the parties will benefit from it. New York, at the conclusion of the
proceeding for dissolution, does make the parties aware of an educational course on how divorce affects children, but that
course is entirely optional. |
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| Q. |
I'm all alone (besides my children) and don't know how I'll get through getting divorced, and I don't know if I can do
the shared parenting time thing. I can't afford counseling. Where do I turn? |
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Legal Separation
Marital Separation |
| Q. |
What are the marriage separation choices in New York State and what do they
mean please? |
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Up until October of 2010, there were two types of marriage separation in New York. The first and by far
the most common petition for separation was by both of you signing a legal separation agreement and living apart as per that
agreement (and apart for more than one year). The Separation Agreement must have met certain requirements in form and language.
The separation agreement appears to have been left unchanged, but the statutes now only require irretrievable breakdown
of the marriage for at least six months. In a word, separating for a year in anticipation of a divorce is no longer
possible. |
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Why get a legal separation if a dissolution (divorce) will untangle the lives? |
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Legal separation is frequently pursued when one of the parties wants to stay married for
religious reasons, wants the advantage of deductibility of spousal support payments for income tax reasons, wants to maintain
various insurance coverage's, or do not want to wait the state statutory waiting period for termination of marital status. |
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Waiting Period |
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Is there any kind of waiting period in the divorce process? |
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Excluding the one year residency requirement, there are no waiting periods, and other
than the year of separation required for a consent divorce, there are no waiting periods. |
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Grandparents Rights
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Can grandparents ask for and receive visitation privileges? |
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Yes. New York State divorce laws and federal statutes permit grandparents the right to petition
the court for visitation. |
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Divorce Settlement
Distribution of Assets |
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We have quite a few assets from the marriage, and I'm concerned how much of
a 'hit' I'm going to take in this divorce? Will my adultery have an impact on the divorce settlement? |
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Firstly, marital misconduct doesn't play into a court's decision in most cases concerning a divorce settlement.
Secondly, you and the spouse have the opportunity to craft a separation agreement which settles all issues including dividing
the assets. If you are unable to agree on an settlement, the court will produce its own divorce settlement that is consistent
with New York being an 'Equitable Distribution' state. The judge will return pre-marital assets to their owner, and then
divide the balance of the assets equitably, but not necessarily evenly. |
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My husband wants to offer me a divorce settlement from his retirement accounts
(401(k), IRAs, etc) using a QDRO, but I suspect the offer is very low. Is there somewhere I or we can go to get a fair valuation
and distribution? |
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You have two choices. You can have your divorce attorney prepare a proposal (they
usually hire an outside, third-party for an evaluation) at significant cost, or you can get your soon-to-be-ex to agree to
an accurate but affordable method using The QDRO Desk software. |
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I understand New York's divorce laws have changed. When did they change and how do the changes affect dividing assets
and divorce settlements? |
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NY divorce laws changed in October 2010. Gone are fault reasons for divorce, replaced with the sole ground
of irretrievable breakdown. Legal opinions on the new laws seem to agree that there are gaps in the new law. An
example of a gap would be where one does not want the divorce because property will be sold in a bad housing market (like
now) and then divided. Scholars suggest there is no longer a way to stop the divorce with the new statutes. Another murky
area is around spousal support. Previously a judge would make decisions on this matter, but now a statute specifically addresses
amounts to be paid but misses on particulars on how various factors affect the final amount. For those earning less than
$500,000.00, a mathematical formula for temporary support is the lesser of 30 percent of the payor's income minus 20% of
the payee's income, or 40 percent of the sum of the two incomes minus the payee's income.
Everyone with incomes below $500,000.00 are subject to the same provisions of the law. Those incomes amounts above the
$500,000.00 threshold are included in the equation at the judge's discretion, who applies more subjective factors.
The new divorce statute mandates for a worksheet to calculate the percentage of income the more affluent spouse will pay
to the other. It does not appear to be clear in figuring the percentage of income to be paid, whether the spousal maintenance
should be subtracted from gross income first or the child support. Scholars agree that there does not appear to be any guidance
as to whether subtractions are to be made from gross income to child support first, off the top, to arrive at the amount
of support to the spouse or if is it the other way around.
If the payor is self-employed or has a cash business, it becomes more difficult to determine real income (easier for portions
of the income to be hidden). Another gap seems to be around the temporary award in that the temporary award (before discovery)
will tend to not have the entire financial picture and could become permanent without getting the complete picture. |
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What criteria will the court consider when it must produce a divorce settlement for the
parties? |
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The income and property of each at the time of marriage, and again at the time of the filing
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the length of the marriage and the age and health of both; |
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the custodial parent's need to occupy residence and its contents; |
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any loss of inheritance and pension rights should the action proceed to divorce; any award of alimony or
maintenance; |
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the contributions and services of each spouse to the career of the other; |
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liquidity of all marital property; |
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the probable future financial circumstances of each; |
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any interest in a business, corporation or profession each may have during the marriage; taxes; |
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if either party wastefully dissipated any assets prior to settlement; |
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the transfer of any assets ahead of the filing such that it would deny the other a fair share and judicial
discretion over any other issue. |
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Residency Requirements |
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What are the residency requirements to file a petition for divorce, separation
or annulment? |
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Residency requirements are one of the following:
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The marriage occurred in New York and one spouse has been a resident for one year just preceding
the filing, or |
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Each have resided in this state as husband and wife and either is a resident when the filing occurred have
been a resident for one year prior to the filing, or |
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The cause for the action occurred in the state and either has been a resident for one year prior to the
filing, or |
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The cause for the action occurred in the state and both are residents at the time of filing, or |
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Either has been a resident of the state for two years prior to the filing |
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Marriage
Annulment
